July 8, 2025
I spoke to Ruth, my therapist, this weekend. She was pleased to hear Marcus reached out to me again (this was a few weeks ago now), but then dismayed that I squashed it down. It’s a different perspective I guess – Ruth says there’s something behind Marcus having kept reaching out to me despite me leaving him on read. She wants me to be more intentional and proactive, but I only do that for people I have fair certainty would reciprocate, if only eventually.
I tried to reconnect with him back in June, and he said no – He was seeing someone else and didn’t want to mess it up. Never asked to spend time with me again. So what use is a few texts?
Ruth: “So if he had asked to see you, you would feel differently?”
Me: “Yes, I pay attention to actions over words.”
Don’t be a fool and huff on the copium. People who want you in their life would be consistent and make time for you. Anything else and you’re casual, disposable entertainment at best.
To be told: I need to burn this bridge with you to protect another relationship I value more.
It stings. I respect the honesty though and people shouldn’t be punished for it.
